Turn Anger into Love

In the Modern World

• • • Anger, rage and hate do not inform us well.
    • Anger, rage and hate don’t keep us safe.
    • Anger, rage and hate put us all in danger.

Choose to love, not anger; practice this thought.

Love every day and night, in every way you can.

Love yourself; love your body and mind. Lead with love in all you do.

Eventually, the choice to love becomes your first response.

You Can Love All Day and Night

At any time, you can turn anger or fear into love, You can! I promise. Your life will improve!

For a life of love and comfort, practice is required. We need to schedule thoughts of love throughout our day.

Our power of love will improve as we learn to be aware of our anger and fear at both large and subtle levels.

We must become aware of a problem, if we’re to control it and make it better.

Awareness Is the Key

Our anger and discomfort are obvious when we lose our temper, yell and scream.

“But that’s not me” you may respond; “I don’t yell and scream” … or maybe you do.

It doesn’t matter.

Destructive forms of anger and fear can also be passive, quiet and unconscious.

We’re Fully Human

As fully human beings, we all have fear and anger in our lives. There are times when fear and anger can lead us to safety, yet most often these emotions will get in our way.

…become aware of our micro-angers and micro-fears

To be truly successful with the power of love in our lives, we must become aware of our mico-angers and micro-fears that have become unconscious habit.

The Harm of Micro-Anger

Most micro-anger and fear are the consequence of being injured by someone’s words or actions toward us, or by being ignored.

When we push away and deny we’ve been injured, we create a poison pill that we digest again and again. In denial, we have aggression or defeated passivity we unknowingly act out.

Most of us have micro-angers and micro-fears that we unconsciouosly act out upon others in obvious and subtle ways, on purpose or without awareness.

How Micro-Fear Can Damage Us

Micro-anger and micro-fear can be small slights, ignoring behavior or unwanted “advice” given to others.

Micro-anger and fear can be a numbing and unawareness we create to deny connection to others who both need and want our attention. This can be a form of abuse we do, not knowing we do it.

Micro-anger and fear can express as being “too nice” or too understanding … letting others take advantage of us by giving to people who do not give back.

We may act out our anger and fear as both a steamroller and a doormat, depending on the place or situation.

The Effect of Micro-Disfunctions

These micro-disfunctions of fear and anger can present both as passivity and aggression.

We can act from these angers and fears both purposefully or without knowing. The result is the same: injury continues to ourselves and others.

With these micro-disfunctions, we injure both ourselves and those we love, repeatedly and without notice.

However, we may act out our fears and anger on larger platforms, perhaps on a global scale. We have to be careful.

We can make another choice of love and strength … if we heal, if we choose.

Heal from the Injuries of Life

Look at how you’ve been injured. Reflect upon how you’ve been hurt. Our human attention can heal.

As we look at our injuries, a healing awareness can arise … if our attention is gentle, purposeful and wanting us to heal.

Grieve and have compassion for your pain. Comfort yourself; then forgive.

• • • Grieve
    • Comfort
    • Forgive

We forgive, by simply saying, “I forgive” the person, place or event that has injured us.

Forgiveness can deactivate our cycle of resentment, fear and suffering.

Recover from Deep Pain

For deep pain, we need a mentor to take us to the injury, work through the anger and fear … and release it.

We release pain and fear, foremost by expressing it and NOT suppressing it.

• • • Write your anger and fear out of your body.
    • Speak your fear away by sharing your story.
    • Then forgive by saying the words, “I forgive.”

Repeat these steps as needed.

Micro-Anger Awareness

The process of micro-anger awareness is actually easy … if you do it. Simply ask yourself to be aware of your fear and anger at deeper and more subtle levels.

You can program your brain to work for you by making simple requests. Gently tell your brain what you want it to do.

You can control our brain … with your brain.

Tell your brain to be more aware of anger and fear, and turn it into love.

Try it! Then repeat and make this request a habit of your daily practice.

Where there is anger and fear, move the energy of fear and anger into love.

To Have Love, Check Your Motives

Examine your motives — good or bad — for what you think, say and do. Question yourself.

If you’re doing something fear based or in anger, that you don’t want to do, focus your attention on another topic.

Call a friend.

Read a book or an article on this blog.

Shift your attention from your unwanted emotions, and instead think of love.

Shift Your Focus to Good Intent

With a little practice, we can change our minds quickly from resentment, fear and worry … to love and understanding.

We all have the power of love within us: ready, willing and able to work if we shift our focus from fear and anger to love and good intent.

Do not fear! You can turn anger into love, and build a wonderful awareness, with the video below…

Video: How to Activate Your Loving Power