With love, there is understanding and knowledge; without love there is misinformation.

When our actions and motives do not come from love, there may be misunderstanding and consequences we don’t want.

True Love Is a Deliberate Choice

True love is a deliberate choice that must be made again and again to become habit. The latest research shows it requires 2 or 3 months to form a true neurological habit. This is a lot more time than the often stated idea that a habit takes 2 or 3 weeks of practice. Make love a habit.

How to Form the Habit of Love

Look at the archives of my Lessons in Love blog. Make reading this blog a habit. Take the suggestions. Read daily for two or three months.

The deliberate choice to love requires little, beyond choosing to love. To love does not put us at risk or in danger… just the opposite: Love gives us clarity and enables us to act in a beneficial way.

Love Makes us Safe

To love, deliberately, makes us safe and not endangered. Use your will to love. Transform yourself. Love more. Love yourself. Love and love deliberately. Love and love more; this will bear you a gift.

Love Now, and Get Your Way

Make love your mind, your way. View and consider everything with love.

In love, is how we think and plan the best. In love, is how we best work. In love, is how we best play. We rest the best in love. Make love your way.

Practice and use your will in a gentle way, to love deliberately. Love every day.


John F. Harrigan
John F. Harrigan

Author, Speaker, Qi Gong Master