The best feelings often accompany the bad. First,
allow yourself to feel.

When we get centered, grounded and have found
ourselves—most feelings are good, and bad feelings
pass from us quickly.

To feel good, practice feeling; practice knowing who
you are. Feeling good consistently begins with desire
and happens through practice. We all deserve to feel
good. Goodness is who we are!


To begin:

1. Sit quietly, and be still
2. Quell judgment

Observe thought if it comes, but do not perpetuate
thinking. Random thought is natural; don’t resist.
Observe, and let it go.


3. Observe your breathing, in and out

But do not attempt to control your breathing. Simply observe.

4. With quiet, gently observe

Focus again on your quiet. If there is no quiet within you,
imagine there is. Imagine how it would feel, how it would look?
What is the shape, color and location of your quiet?

5. Allow thought to be present or absent as you sit
6. Observe your thoughts when they come
7. Do the same with feelings

In time, you will know.

With practice, you will understand.
Your feelings will come under control.
Your thoughts and life will occur with greater ease.

8. This requires practice

A thousand pages of instructions and videos could
be shown; but this is all the information you need.

The truth is simple.

9. Who we are is simple

Fear breeds complexity and confusion, so does ambition. Get quiet.

Sitting still, of our own volition, allows the “true person” to appear.
Good feelings then happen.

This requires practice.

10. Do Qi Gong

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A feeling…

• Don’t deny it
• Don’t push it away
• Relax and look at it

A feeling…

• What does it mean? What does it say?
• Where did it come from?
• Do you need it?
• Do you want it?

Is the feeling constructive, helpful or informative?

Feelings often slow down and become controllable
if we look at them without judgment or interference.

When you have finished with the feeling, when you
have decided its time is up, that it has no further
purpose: Say good-bye to the feeling or put the
feeling to bed as you would a little baby.

Feelings are in our life to serve us, to instruct us,
help us grow and be safe.

Feelings are in our life to be our joy.

Our feelings belong to us; they are in our control.

Learning to feel may be no easy task, especially
for things we have learned not to feel.

Pain is a basic feeling most of us try to avoid.
The pain of rejection, embarrassment or
abandonment can often be denied.

It is natural to avoid pain, but to continually
deny it, or “stuff it,” can lead to misguided
numbness and increased pain down the road.

Even though we fear emotional pain, it is probably
best to feel it as it comes. When we deny it, we
get knotted up and out of touch.

A fearful denial of pain can keep the needed solace
of love away from us. It can block us off when we
need love most.

Fearful denial keeps us from love. Do not be afraid
to feel hurt when hurt comes your way.

Acknowledge pain and say, “I am hurt.” Seek solace
from contemplation, meditation, prayer and friends.

When you deny your emotions and feelings, you
are controlled by them and may not even know it.

A simple way to get in touch with your feelings is to
write them down at the end of the day or whenever
you can.

Talk about feelings with other interested and trusting
persons. Ask them how they feel? Tell them how you
feel. Practice identifying your feelings.

When you are angry, acknowledge to yourself that
you are angry. Do not stuff it.

If you feel driven by fear, let yourself know it. Seek to
understand the fear? Then let it go, and instead
choose to feel a better feeling, such as love.

When you deny your emotions and feelings, you
are controlled by them and may not even know it.

Get to know your feelings, but do it in safety. Do it
with caring and trusting friends. Do it with a Higher
Power.

Do not rush things; everything has it’s moment.
Do not rush the process of feelings, simply
feel what you are feeling, and nothing more.

The point of feeling our feelings is to feel good, and
feeling good comes naturally when we are open to
feeling in a Divine and caring way.

Sometimes we are afraid of our feelings—afraid to be sad,
mad or hurt. Some of us feel that the goal is to be happy
all of the time.

It is important to feel all our feelings that we can, in their
own time, in their own place. In a healthy human being,
all the emotions are important.

The proper feeling of grief can heal broken parts of a soul
torn apart by loss. A slow welling of sadness may have an
important purpose. Sadness can bring a healing love, a
slow moving energy that helps us through a bad time.

What we call “bad” feelings often have a complimentary
good feeling at their finish. Pain carries with it compassion,
so we may endure and learn where compassion lies. With this
lesson, we are more able to call on compassion in times of
pain. The world does not want its members to be in pain.

The world has compassion for its people. Fear or general
discomfort can be telling us what not to do, or they may be
groundless phobic responses. We must learn and decide
by our choices.

Do not fight emotions, cutting them off; learn to work
through them. The depression someone may be fighting
could have an important purpose. Feel it, and listen to it
before casting it out.

Depression could be telling you that something is not good
for your soul, that you need change or understanding from
someone important in your life. Depression may also be part
of a natural grieving process. Depression is not always bad.

Do not be afraid of your feelings. They have important work
to do and are a vital part of who you are. By working through
your feelings, lessons can be learned with great rewards.

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If we pay attention and listen to ourselves,

negative emotions and difficult feelings

surrender a strength we may not have

known.

lead to a greater strength and knowing than the

experiences they hide.

In hate, we do harm to ourselves and harm
others.

The hate we feel is our own hate, caused by
ourselves, and no one else. We are the only
ones who can stop it.

This hate we feel is ours alone and hurts us
the most. We are feeling it, the hate, with
our own heart, our own mind, our body and
soul.

The hate is ours, and we are hating
ourselves as we hate others.

Hate is a physiological activity in our brain and
body. Hate for another begins in us, and stays
with us alone.

When we hate, we are the ones being hated,
the ones we hate are left alone.

When we hate, this hate and resentment hurt
us the most, regardless of what others have done.

Our hate inevitably hurts others, blameless
others in our way.

Hate disconnects our brain and heart, we go
numb with senseless harm… coming from our
behavior.

Hate must stop. We stop hate by looking in
its face and asking hate some questions?

We stop hate by listening to what it says, by
asking our hate what it hates and why? How was
it hurt and what happened? What can be done to
repair the harm? Where is the hate coming from?

Talk to hate as you would a child; hate operates
on a child’s terms. Hate can be extinguished as we
would extinguish hate in a child… by loving firm.

We listen to our hate as we might listen to a child
who has been hurt. We listen and understand. We
give calm to that vulnerable place and space that
has been hurt with hate and harm.

We let the innocence arise where there has been
hurt. We find the strength behind the hate and
grieve the pain that hate has hidden for so long.

“Gold” will arise; the soul will emerge unharmed.

Love may then come, to replace the space once
held by hate. We feel better, are more complete
and strong.

Hate can weaken and fade, as we give it attention.
Hate can lead to a love in full strength, if we follow
the harm.

Hate is good if we listen. Hate is holding the “gold”
of our heart, trying to keep it safe.

If we are patient and strong, hate will surrender
a gift we thought gone.

Love gives us full strength; hate leads to love.

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Fear, held too long, turns to hate.

Hate is wrong; it is a state of mind

that does not think, a state of mind

that causes harm.

Hate and resentment, held too long,

begin to look like fact and make our

senses numb.

In a condition of hate and resentment,

we cannot make good decisions.

We can’t help but do harm.

Too much fear, held too long, makes us blind

and easy to anger.

A little fear may save our life, in an emergency.

This is how fear is designed.

But the challenge of modern life is the

containment of fear, so it does no harm.

Fear that is held in ourselves for too long,

beyond the time for appropriate use, can

hurt us from the inside out by distorting our

thoughts and feelings, by giving forth actions

of harm to ourselves and others for no

productive reason.

Fear, held too long, can destroy us and make

life wrong.