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A feeling…

• Don’t deny it
• Don’t push it away
• Relax and look at it

A feeling…

• What does it mean? What does it say?
• Where did it come from?
• Do you need it?
• Do you want it?

Is the feeling constructive, helpful or informative?

Feelings often slow down and become controllable
if we look at them without judgment or interference.

When you have finished with the feeling, when you
have decided its time is up, that it has no further
purpose: Say good-bye to the feeling or put the
feeling to bed as you would a little baby.

Feelings are in our life to serve us, to instruct us,
help us grow and be safe.

Feelings are in our life to be our joy.

Our feelings belong to us; they are in our control.

(From my book, “Lessons in Love,” pp 149-150)

Learning to feel may be no easy task, especially
for things we have learned not to feel.

Pain is a basic feeling most of us try to avoid.
The pain of rejection, embarrassment or
abandonment can often be denied.

It is natural to avoid pain, but to continually
deny it, or “stuff it,” can lead to misguided
numbness and increased pain down the road.

Even though we fear emotional pain, it is probably
best to feel it as it comes. When we deny it, we
get knotted up and out of touch.

A fearful denial of pain can keep the needed solace
of love away from us. It can block us off when we
need love most.

Fearful denial keeps us from love. Do not be afraid
to feel hurt when hurt comes your way.

Acknowledge pain and say, “I am hurt.” Seek solace
from contemplation, meditation, prayer and friends.

The best feelings often accompany the bad. Free
yourself to feel; it will allow you to think better.

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(From my book, “Lessons in Love,” pp 149-150)

When you deny your emotions and feelings, you
are controlled by them and may not even know it.

A simple way to get in touch with your feelings is to
write them down at the end of the day or whenever
you can.

Talk about feelings with other interested and trusting
persons. Ask them how they feel? Tell them how you
feel. Practice identifying your feelings.

When you are angry, acknowledge to yourself that
you are angry. Do not stuff it.

If you feel driven by fear, let yourself know it. Seek to
understand the fear? Then let it go, and instead
choose to feel a better feeling, such as love.

When you deny your emotions and feelings, you
are controlled by them and may not even know it.

Get to know your feelings, but do it in safety. Do it
with caring and trusting friends. Do it with a Higher
Power.

Do not rush things; everything has it’s moment.
Do not rush the process of feelings, simply
feel what you are feeling, and nothing more.

The point of feeling our feelings is to feel good, and
feeling good comes naturally when we are open to
feeling in a Divine and caring way.

(From my book, “Lessons in Love” pp 41-42)

Sometimes we are afraid of our feelings—afraid to be sad,
mad or hurt. Some of us feel that the goal is to be happy
all of the time.

It is important to feel all our feelings that we can, in their
own time, in their own place. In a healthy human being,
all the emotions are important.

The proper feeling of grief can heal broken parts of a soul
torn apart by loss. A slow welling of sadness may have an
important purpose. Sadness can bring a healing love, a
slow moving energy that helps us through a bad time.

What we call “bad” feelings often have a complimentary
good feeling at their finish. Pain carries with it compassion,
so we may endure and learn where compassion lies. With this
lesson, we are more able to call on compassion in times of
pain. The world does not want its members to be in pain.

The world has compassion for its people. Fear or general
discomfort can be telling us what not to do, or they may be
groundless phobic responses. We must learn and decide
by our choices.

Do not fight emotions, cutting them off; learn to work
through them. The depression someone may be fighting
could have an important purpose. Feel it, and listen to it
before casting it out.

Depression could be telling you that something is not good
for your soul, that you need change or understanding from
someone important in your life. Depression may also be part
of a natural grieving process. Depression is not always bad.

Do not be afraid of your feelings. They have important work
to do and are a vital part of who you are. By working through
your feelings, lessons can be learned with great rewards.

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If we pay attention and listen to ourselves,

negative emotions and difficult feelings

surrender a strength we may not have

known.

Once revealed and understood,

negative emotions lead to a greater

strength than the experiences they hide.

In hate, we do harm to ourselves and harm
others.

The hate we feel is our own hate, caused by
ourselves, and no one else. We are the only
ones who can stop it.

This hate we feel is ours alone and hurts us
the most. We are feeling it, the hate, with
our own heart, our own mind, our body and
soul.

The hate is ours, and we are hating
ourselves as we hate others.

Hate is a physiological activity in our brain and
body. Hate for another begins in us, and stays
with us alone.

When we hate, we are the ones being hated,
the ones we hate are left alone.

When we hate, this hate and resentment hurt
us the most, regardless of what others have done.

Our hate inevitably hurts others, blameless
others in our way.

Hate disconnects our brain and heart, we go
numb with senseless harm… coming from our
behavior.

Hate must stop. We stop hate by looking in
its face and asking hate some questions?

We stop hate by listening to what it says, by
asking our hate what it hates and why? How was
it hurt and what happened? What can be done to
repair the harm? Where is the hate coming from?

Talk to hate as you would a child; hate operates
on a child’s terms. Hate can be extinguished as we
would extinguish hate in a child… by loving firm.

We listen to our hate as we might listen to a child
who has been hurt. We listen and understand. We
give calm to that vulnerable place and space that
has been hurt with hate and harm.

We let the innocence arise where there has been
hurt. We find the strength behind the hate and
grieve the pain that hate has hidden for so long.

“Gold” will arise; the soul will emerge unharmed.

Love may then come, to replace the space once
held by hate. We feel better, are more complete
and strong.

Hate can weaken and fade, as we give it attention.
Hate can lead to a love in full strength, if we follow
the harm.

Hate is good if we listen. Hate is holding the “gold”
of our heart, trying to keep it safe.

If we are patient and strong, hate will surrender
a gift we thought gone.

Love gives us full strength; hate leads to love.

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Fear, held too long, turns to hate.

Hate is wrong; it is a state of mind

that does not think, a state of mind

that causes harm.

Hate and resentment, held too long,

begin to look like fact and make our

senses numb.

In a condition of hate and resentment,

we cannot make good decisions.

We can’t help but do harm.

Too much fear, held too long, makes us blind

and easy to anger.

A little fear may save our life, in an emergency.

This is how fear is designed.

But the challenge of modern life is the

containment of fear, so it does no harm.

Fear that is held in ourselves for too long,

beyond the time for appropriate use, can

hurt us from the inside out by distorting our

thoughts and feelings, by giving forth actions

of harm to ourselves and others for no

productive reason.

Fear, held too long, can destroy us and make

life wrong.

To love everyone and everything is difficult.

It is not something a certain part of our brain naturally wants
to do. Some of our neurological anatomy is designed to fight
or run from danger, to defend our ground and families, to
attack and compete in the need to survive.

So how do we love?

The answer is simple:  It takes practice and patience. The work
can be hard.

First, we make a decision to love, not false affection for
everyone, but a decision to turn on our overriding ability to love
and see love as the character and quality in all things.

We decide to look for the best in people and love them as a
Grand Creator might see. This is not about liking everything
a person does or has done, but about seeing the world as a
Creation of Love.

Why do this at all? To be perfectly honest… for ourselves.
The motive to love can be selfish; it should be. We are our best
when in love—acting and interpreting life from a loving
perspective. We benefit the most.

The survival or primitive brain can be used to generate love, to
envelope all our doing, actions, thoughts and interpretations in
a love response, a loving comprehension. Love comes from all
of us, as our soul.

The primitive brain that fights and runs, can turn around and
light up everything in an aura and factual basis of love…

If we practice using our will to love and not judge, or
attack, we can love everyone and everything. This takes
practice, and continual effort that gets easier in time as we
create love as a habit. As we move away from harsh and critical
thinking, to a more natural and calming response, love becomes
habit

To love and be loved: It is up to us, and our decision alone. We do
not wait for the world to come to our aid and make us feel good
before we act and decide to love.

We take the initiative and focus in on love first; the world
will then turn around, and our day will be better.

Others may notice and benefit from our loving presence,
without a doubt! However, we will benefit the most…
immediately and over the long term.

Our bodies respond quickly and strongly to an attitude of love,
initiated by ourselves. Our brains work better in love. With love
we have more accurate, honest and productive interpretations
of the world, that bring better experience and results.

Our hearts, kidneys, knees, eyes and lungs work better, and
all of our body is more at ease and functioning well when we
have an attitude of love, a deeply committed practice of loving
response.

Life simply works best, as we love.

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